Harassment = non-violent, irritating; intimidating.
Assault = violent. In cases of criminal charges, physical contact must have occurred.
Sexual Harassment = irritating and inappropriate touching, usually of a sexual nature. Verbally irritating and inappropriate remarks or behavior. Sexually-related pressure used to deny objections between individuals due to a power imbalance based on gender or authority. Inappropriate touching which goes beyond cultural norms (handshakes, hugs, shoulder pats) to a grey area where ANY type of physical contact can be inappropriate based on one person telling another, “do NOT touch me (specific reference to unwanted touch).
Sexual Assault = this one should be clear. One person says, “No. I do not want sex. I do not want sex with you.”
However, with two recent incidents in the media, I have to ask: Where has our societal and gender perspective gone? Must everything have an agenda?
I feel like we are dumbing down legal nuances which have value and situationally appropriate consequences to make everything equally outrageous, diluting the message’s value and building a level of solidarity that weakens perspective and impeding cultural progress in changing circumstances.
The picture above, “my body is not public space” is a perfect example of an agenda statement.
Ditto the comparison between the mentor / shoulder clap, and the boob grab photo.
No way are they the same thing, however, they are being treated as if they are equally heinous.
Ashley Judd’s airport facebook live is a perfect instance of someone with too much time on their hands setting the stage for an “agenda” protest where she was unhappy with the too-familiar language of the TSA (male) officer calling her “sweetheart” vs. “miss” or “ma’am” when talking to her while going through security. (You’ll have to google the actual videos, as I can only find them embedded in other stories vs. as a standalone video).
Taylor Swift’s situation, on the other hand, could be taken as appropriate (it’s in response to a lawsuit by someone who was fired in response to her complaint of inappropriate touching – sexual assault – in response to his lawsuit demanding $3m because he was fired due to her complaint).
Not sure what’s going on in the world, but Taylor’s team is firing back with a sexual assault case (vs. sexual harassment) for the inappropriate touching which reportedly occurred during a meet and greet.
While I appreciate Taylor’s vigorous defense of her personal space autonomy, I’m disappointed that it’s not being filed as a “harassment” case vs. an “assault” case.
We are so agenda-driven in this country on the “rights” issues that we are losing perspective on small battles vs. important skirmishes.
Ashley was right, but didn’t need to publicise the video on her situation as it comes across as very self-serving, pandering, and an ego driven abuse of celebrity / power simply to make a point against a guy who is an anachronism.
Taylor was also right to complain about the butt grab, but the consequences become a he said / she said that is only partially resolved by a picture which appears to back up her complaint. A complaint that shouldn’t require backup, but which is relevant because the DJ is suing her (the deep pocket) and not his former employer, for wrongful termination.
As a country, we appear to have lost our minds.