Crap like the meme above, supposedly blessed by a Christian faith, does NOT take into account someone on the margins of mental abilities.
As I wrote in yesterday’s post: Busybody-Friend
I was off to check on a friend who had fallen off the radar. While things weren’t as dire as I anticipated, they were still awful.
– Electricity shut off (non-payment of bill)
– Drinks and things needing refridgeration outside in a cooler (WTF)
– Sleeping all day and going out at only night due to high daytime temperatures (but, now a safety issue)
– Rent increased by another $100 a month, month to month
– Phone misplaced somewhere in the dark apartment (which could have been aided by opening the danged levelors)
While she appeared to be ok, I learned that she’s been falling a lot, and that someone had sent the police to do a wellness check about 3 weeks prior (her extended family, I presume).
Also, her paranoia has increased, and she was talking nonsense about hanging out and having conversations with Kelly Ripa and Michael Strahan, the female cast of Ghostbusters, and that Grace Slick is her new bestie. Sad. Confusing. Frightening. Sad. I’m just a swirl with my own challenges on that topic of mental health breakdown or failure to cope causing a mental health breakdown.
When I asked her how she got to these venues, she had no answers. When I asked her if she might have been hallucinating, because Michael Strahan had been off “Live! With Kelly” for months, she just shook her head. When I asked if it was possible she was spending way too much time watching you tube when she wasn’t feeling well and might be hallucinating, she thought it might be possible. But she was also sure she was having conversations with these folks. Her friends.
Then I come back to memes like the one above, and I have to ask – seriously?!!!
I have no answers along the lines of a chicken and egg theme, for knowing whether living as she is is making her mental health challenges worse, or if she wouldn’t have mental health challenges with proper access to care and medicines and food and liquids.
I’ll do what I can by researching mental health and well being advocates for elders, but I’m not going to hold my breath that she gets the consistent help she needs as she is unable or unwilling to participate in helping herself. It’s criminal, the benign neglect she’s suffering.