I have a friend and former neighbor who worries me. I’ve written before about C’s challenges as she’s aging, and it’s really concerning right now as she’s out of her mind.
I thought we were making good progress last week with her ability to deal with the reality of her situation, but yesterday proved that wasn’t true.
While I got her hooked up with a case manager at the senior center, and thought it was a good sign, it’s clear to me that she’s done little to nothing about moving out of her hostile living situation. Last week, she said her backup plan was to farm her two dogs out to friends, and move in with her sister and (equally hostile) brother in law. Yeah, progress !
Last night I found out that she’d talked to no one yet. All these plans are in her brain and nothing has been done in the real world to bring them to reality. She was asking if my former Roomie could take one of the dogs (no).
She’d lost or misplaced her phone. Again.
She was walking around with $1,000 in her pocket (from last week’s car / license reinstatement), and had misplaced her wallet, ID, etc. Again.
She’d paid rent through the 15th of November, forgetting / ignoring / whatever, that she’s been served with a 60 day eviction notice that expires on November 7th. Again.
I know I cannot help someone who is out of their mind with mental health issues, which is why it was so important to get her signed up with a senior case manager to try and get some professional help with her failing living situation and vulnerabilities. Clearly, she hasn’t told the case manager what’s happening and asked for help in their initial interview, and she’s under a deadline to find someplace else to live as the 7th is fast approaching. She’s been without mental health support since she changed medical plans and left Kaiser, so it’s already been a very rocky year. It’s likely that things are going to get worse before they can get better, and I am clueless about what it’s going to take to deal with this impasse.
After having received a panicked call last night (she was sure the landlord/friend had taken her money and her phone, among other grievances), I got a meal into her and hopefully got her refocused on the fact that the 7th is coming. The landlord / former friend is likely to call to cops to finish the eviction, and she’s living in denial. She’s already missed two prior move out dates, and the landlord / friend is becoming angrier and more verbally abusive as (I believe) she’s working up to the point where she feels justified to call to cops and have this vulnerable woman evicted.
It’s a cl*sterf*ck all around.
No answers here, as no one needs this level of stress in their lives. I’m hoping she’ll get the dogs situated today, so that she can then concentrate on getting herself and her stuff moved out and into her sister and brother in laws (if they will have her). Otherwise, her next stop is a women’s shelter. I’m doing what I can to help with transportation and meals, but beyond that, my hands are tied.
Hopefully, she’ll focus today on what’s in front of her that needs attention, vs. concentrating on what’s behind her for things she cannot change. Winter is coming, and America is brutally indifferent to its people with mental health issues that end up on the streets.